Confessions of a Guilt Ridden Attached Parent
I don't know about you, but sometimes when I read other blogs or talk to other attached mamas I just feel guilty. Maybe other people are just putting their best face forward for the public and don't want to admit all of life's frustrations. Whatever it is, I think many many moms are afraid to admit the things they struggle with. This is especially true for mom's who are shooting for a gentle, attached and natural approach to parenting.
Our society and social structure doesn't really support this and so it is hard to actually carry out on a day to day basis. So - to make you all feel better and less guilt ridden, I am going to admit all my secret flaws RIGHT NOW!
(Don't tell your Baby Wise friends about this. This is meant for attached mamas only.)
~ I sleep better by myself.
~ I cloth diaper. I pretend it is because I love the environment and hate toxins, but it is really because I am broke.
~ My most prized possession is my stroller, not my sling. I love to exercise and walk places, and it is simply easier with my jogger (and easy on my back).
~ I spend way too much time online.
~ Sometimes I yell. And- it is tempting to do it more often because they appear to actually listen!!!!
~ My kids repeat my swear words. (And no, princess three year old girls do not sound cute when they say d%&n it, nor do 18 month old boys sound sweet when they yell S@#T!)
~ During my home birth I understood why people get epidurals.
~ I tell my childbirth students that birth is awesome and can be painless, but I spent a lot of time crying during my last labor because I was so overwhelmed and I KNOW I yelled at everybody with my second birth.
~ I feel I need interests outside of my home to ensure I do not go totally insane.
~ I am trying to convince my husband to get snipped.
~ Aleve was an important part of my post-partum recovery with my first two children.
~ I LOVED that one of my kids sucked their thumb.
~ I bribe my kids with sweets (pretty sure that isn't Dr. Sears approved).
~ I attempt potty training way too early.
There it is folks. I am sure there are many more. Please do not send me e-mails about how I need to be better. I already know.
Our society and social structure doesn't really support this and so it is hard to actually carry out on a day to day basis. So - to make you all feel better and less guilt ridden, I am going to admit all my secret flaws RIGHT NOW!
(Don't tell your Baby Wise friends about this. This is meant for attached mamas only.)
~ I sleep better by myself.
~ I cloth diaper. I pretend it is because I love the environment and hate toxins, but it is really because I am broke.
~ My most prized possession is my stroller, not my sling. I love to exercise and walk places, and it is simply easier with my jogger (and easy on my back).
~ I spend way too much time online.
~ Sometimes I yell. And- it is tempting to do it more often because they appear to actually listen!!!!
~ My kids repeat my swear words. (And no, princess three year old girls do not sound cute when they say d%&n it, nor do 18 month old boys sound sweet when they yell S@#T!)
~ During my home birth I understood why people get epidurals.
~ I tell my childbirth students that birth is awesome and can be painless, but I spent a lot of time crying during my last labor because I was so overwhelmed and I KNOW I yelled at everybody with my second birth.
~ I feel I need interests outside of my home to ensure I do not go totally insane.
~ I am trying to convince my husband to get snipped.
~ Aleve was an important part of my post-partum recovery with my first two children.
~ I LOVED that one of my kids sucked their thumb.
~ I bribe my kids with sweets (pretty sure that isn't Dr. Sears approved).
~ I attempt potty training way too early.
There it is folks. I am sure there are many more. Please do not send me e-mails about how I need to be better. I already know.
Comments
Before I was a parent, I was the best parent ever. Now, I'm just hoping I'm good enough I don't eff my kids up too much.
My second birth (2.15.11) was natural. I swear I'll never do that again, and I'll never tell someone to do it B/C when my son was born I didn't want to hold him immediately like I did with my daughter. I was SO phsyically overwhlemed, shaking, and consumed by the pain. I felt so GUILTY ABOUT THAT. I won't do that again.