Vaginal Birth After FOUR Cesareans- A Birth Story
I am excited today to share a VBAC birth story- but not just any VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) story. No, this mom had four c-sections before she was able to have a natural, vaginal birth. What an amazing journey and what an inspiration. VBAC is possible- even after numerous cesareans.
I
have 5 children, 4 born via c-section, and my last baby
was born naturally at the hospital and I am now pregnant with number 6
and we are planning a home birth. My first baby, Noah, was born in
1997, I was young (20 years old) and thought that the doctors new it
all. My husband and I naturally assumed that they knew what was best.
I
was approx. 2 weeks past due and they decided they wanted to induce. I
said that I didn't want any drugs, but after awhile they said I should
try some Nubain. It was horrific and I only woke up when a contraction
started so I didn't have any way to control my breathing. After about 13
hours of labor, they said it would be best to do a c-section because
the baby was under major distress. It was like in the movies with me
being rolled quickly down the hallway to the operating room. He
was born healthy and happy and I had a very difficult recovery.
Our
second son, Jonah, wasn't born until 2005 and at that time, the dr. I
was seeing said that it was SOP to have a scheduled c-section after your
1st. I didn't ask questions, I just did it. I should have known
something was awry when she wanted to schedule me more than 2 weeks
early because I was due around Thanksgiving. He was tiny and was in
premature clothing... but he was healthy and happy.
I however, was
feeling like something was missing, like there was something that I
could do, but wasn't really being "allowed" to do.
In
2007 I was pregnant with our 3rd son, Isaac, and we decided after much
praying and praying and research we were going to do an unassisted
homebirth. No doctor would take me for a VBAC (I looked and looked). We
were living in the Chicago area at the time. I made sure I was healthy
by always taking my bp, blood sugars, urine dips, etc. (most things a
midwife would do). I was approx two weeks over due and I was getting
some serious headaches and wasn't feeling that great. I took my bp and
it was 200/100.
We prayed and we went to the urgent care and they
wouldn't see me there, so they told us we needed to go to the hospital.
The urgent care had contacted the hospital to tell them we were on our
way and we were taken upstairs to labor and delivery immediately. After
talking with the nurses about what my wishes were (including being able
to walk around, use a ball, stand, sit, (whatever I needed), they agreed
and I was admitted. As soon as I was admitted, I was basically chained
to the bed and wasn't allowed to move (literally).
Labor was beginning. I
said that I needed to walk around, use a ball, squat, etc and they said
no. My son's heartbeat dropped several times (perfectly normal), but
they freaked out and said that if they didn't do a c-section, I was
putting my baby and myself at risk and I could kill him. After much
consideration, and them hounding me, I caved.... but my Isaac was happy
and healthy. I felt gypped. I felt like my rights were taken away and
they didn't really care about what I needed and wanted.
I
was pregnant with Hannah in 2009 and decided to get a midwife. I knew I
didn't have any other choice. I interviewed a couple of ladies, but I
knew when I met the right one. She was such an inspiration. She has 7
children, most of them home birthed. My entire pregnancy was great and I
finally felt like I was being heard. I had the time to talk and ask
questions. I could talk about my fears. I felt at peace with the
decision of having a midwife. We had all the stuff we needed, including a
pool that could be in my bedroom and I went into labor.
I was in labor
at home for 60 hours. This was active labor. My midwife and her
assistant training to be a midwife were there with me. It was hard work,
a labor of love and at 60 hours I had gone from a 7 to a 5+ and I was
exhausted.
My husband, along with my midwife drove me to the hospital
and we decided to not be completely honest because they were already
going to think we were a little crazy being a homebirth transfer. We
didn't tell them about my previous 3 c-sections so I could try for a
natural birth. The thing is, they wanted me to have my baby in their
time, not my time, and they knew that I had been in labor for 60 hours.
After another 15 hours, we needed to tell them about my previous
c-sections because I wasn't progressing.
When we did, we were treated
like outcasts, and they were horrible to me. They treated me like a
criminal but my Hannah was born happy and healthy via c-section. I did
go through a terrible depression after this birth and I don't know why,
but I think it had something to do with how everything went down.
We
moved to SC and I became pregnant with our 5th baby in 2011. I decided I
would still be proactive in my health and pregnancy, but I would also
go the University hospital (also a teaching hospital) and talk to the
head of the ob department and get my natural birth. We had to have
extensive meetings and other doctors tried to scare me by saying I could
kill my baby and myself.
We had to be strong. We had to be
knowledgeable. We had to stay the course. And so, I was granted the ok
to do a natural birth at the hospital. I went into labor at home and
stayed at home until I could just feel I was close. I got to the
hospital at 5:30 pm and they tried to tell me this would never happen,
and I should just give up and have a c-section, but I stayed strong in
my convictions and my little Faith was born 2 hours after I got to the
hospital, happy and healthy.
More than that, I was happy and healthy
(minus a tear)... I proved everybody wrong and was the talk of the
hospital. I had doctors coming in to see me just to say that they met a
mother that had done what I just did. Even after that though the doctors
still tried to tell me I was stupid and put me and my baby in danger.
They tried to strong arm me into vaccinations, pricks, pokes, etc. We
stayed strong and little Faith is such a happy baby. I had a much easier
go of recovery (although much different!!).
I
am pregnant with number six (I am 39 weeks today), and my midwife that
has been there for me time and time again, even though I didn't have
home births, has stuck with me. She told me a couple of years ago, she
had a dream that I would be birthing by the beach or near water (I now
live on the river). I did try contacting midwives in my area and they
all said no. There is too much red tape for them to help me. Bottom
line, I am very confident in my body's God given ability
to birth children naturally. It has been a long process for me,
sometimes scary, but I have finally found the way. Any questions, please
shout 'em out!
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