tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4936905206079131856.post5274769557786384839..comments2023-10-26T04:41:06.155-07:00Comments on Mama Birth: Fighting For Your BirthMama Birthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08117513287607189564noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4936905206079131856.post-41265723934474315662012-10-26T10:37:46.168-07:002012-10-26T10:37:46.168-07:00I'm 36 and hoping to become pregnant within th...I'm 36 and hoping to become pregnant within the next year (first time). My husband and I live in a very isolated rural town which has a county hospital with a 27% c-section rate. I haven't heard very good things about this hospital re: natural birth. There are no doulas or midwives practicing in this area. I feel very nervous that the doc will want to induce and/or c-section given my age. We are 2 hours' (very rural) drive from the nearest city. <br /><br />My questions would be: what is an acceptable c-section rate, in your opinion? I'm willing to drive, but how far is too far to risk? My parents live in a very large city about 5 hours drive away--I'm considering the idea of staying with them toward the end of the pregnancy and using their local natural birthing center staffed with NMW's. What do you think? <br /><br />I feel nervous because it seems as though we won't be able to make many choices at all--even though we know what's best for me and the baby. Thanks for any thoughts...Hopenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4936905206079131856.post-36783048932575490112012-10-17T13:48:43.478-07:002012-10-17T13:48:43.478-07:00Thank you for this! I'm having a home birth wi...Thank you for this! I'm having a home birth with a midwife for our third child due in April. Hospital policies are the biggest reason for making this switch. I don't want to have to fight for what I want. I regret not fighting harder with our second child and gave in to an induction despite in my heart knowing this was not right.Refrigerator Memorieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02697193165973542401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4936905206079131856.post-29531322273250702952012-10-17T10:45:05.808-07:002012-10-17T10:45:05.808-07:00Thank you and CONGRATS Marisa for finding a place ...Thank you and CONGRATS Marisa for finding a place that would work for you! So glad I did that with my second! And Alanna- that sucks- and I simply cannot believe that is considered acceptable care. Gross.Mama Birthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117513287607189564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4936905206079131856.post-79133035741576598872012-10-17T09:16:26.630-07:002012-10-17T09:16:26.630-07:00Oh, my goodness, it's like you were there in t...Oh, my goodness, it's like you were there in the room with me when I had my third kid. After the accidental home birth, my husband made me promise him that the next baby would be born in a hospital. AND IT WAS JUST LIKE YOU SAY HERE. Fighting for EVERYTHING, starting with me trying to refuse the IV. The doctor (who was just some monster of a woman on call, not the OB I'd been seeing who I quite liked) finally got that one in by spending a full hour consenting me at three in the morning (yes, while I was in labor) and then demurely mentioning that, "This is why you need the IV." while the nurse slipped it into my wrist. I couldn't believe it.<br /><br />The whole rest of the labor was one battle after another, culminating in the doctor and nurses yelling at me that I couldn't possibly push on my hands and knees because "they couldn't see the baby" that way. I was in the middle of pushing and they were all yelling at me!!!!! The doctor finally asked me to at least lay on my side, so as I tried to comply with that, she grabbed my leg and flipped me onto my back right as my son came out.<br /><br />I never want to give birth in a hospital again.<br /><br />And I'm going to re-post this on my own blog for everyone who thinks I'm crazy for wanting a different experience (ahem, my in-laws) to see.<br /><br />Thank you for writing this. You are so dead-on it's not even funny.Alannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04895073619356841356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4936905206079131856.post-73300077554068918472012-10-17T06:58:35.801-07:002012-10-17T06:58:35.801-07:00Hi! I'm a new reader (and a natural birth junk...Hi! I'm a new reader (and a natural birth junkie) and I love your blog. I'm pregnant with my second baby, and I live in a different part of the country than I did with my first birth. My first birth was very similar to yours; even though it didn't go exactly the way I had hoped, it was still a positive experience. I was fortunate enough to find a hospital that was committed to keeping their c-section rates low, didn't force unnecessary interventions, and the doctors/nurses/midwives were very respectful of my wishes, and I never felt that anything was forced on me. <br /><br />Unfortunately, we had to move due to my husband's job, and we are now in a city where all the hospitals have very high c-section rates (around 40%), the doctors favor early inductions, and the more I learned about the hospital the more I knew I would have to fight for my birth plan every step of the way. My husband and I had a long talk about it, and I knew that route just wouldn't be for me. We found a wonderful freestanding birth center about 40 minutes away, and I am going to have my baby there with a midwife. I was a low-risk pregnancy with my son, and there were no complications during delivery. I'm once again considered low-risk, and I'm confident that I made the right choice going with the birth center. <br /><br />Anyway, sorry to turn this into a novel! Keep up the great posts! :)Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00977382355749851597noreply@blogger.com