An Open Letter to the Inventor of the "Start Solids At 4 Months" Rule
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Dear Sirs,
(Yes, I am addressing this to MEN. Not just any men, but men, in particular, who have never changed diapers. You will understand soon.)
You know boys, many people in the "crunchy" community (you know, baby wearing, home birthing, diva cup wearing, eating granola type gals) have this big issue with waiting to start solids until six months or until the baby seems interested in grown up food. This is also known as "baby led weaning."
Maybe you haven't heard of this crazy "baby led weaning" stuff, but it is when the baby starts eating solids when the baby is ready to eat solids. They start sitting up on their own, reaching for food, trying to put it in their mouths. You know that baby might be ready for solids when they master the "pincher" grasp and can delicately pick up a morsel from their tray and place it in their mouth. Basically they eat stuff besides milk when they can physically eat stuff besides milk.
I know, it all DEFIES LOGIC! (I am being sarcastic boys. Keep reading.)
And yet.....
Still I hear women being told to start some "rice cereal" (I won't even get into that, it is a WHOLE other post) when the baby is four months old.
I myself was told by my first child's pediatrician that I should be sure to start solids by four months or he may NEVER EAT SOLID FOOD.
Dun dun DUN!
(As an aside, even when I only had one kid that sounded kind of whack. I have yet to meet an adult who won't eat solid food.)
Who cares if the child can feed himself? Who cares if they can even sit unassisted? Nobody! Just prop them and start shoving spoonfuls of mushy, pureed dinners into their mouth. Most of it gets spit out because they are too young for food, but SOME will make it down their throat.
Here is the thing fellas, there are lots of reasons feeding a child who can't even sit or bring their hand to their face is silly, but the reason I know you invented this rule BEFORE you had children is this...
POOP
Yes, when you start feeding a baby something besides breast milk, the poop changes FOREVER. And not for the better. Without getting into too many details, poop changes from yellowish breastmilk poop to "smells like a gas station bathroom but sticks like none else," poop. If you are doing cloth diapers (which of course you are if you let your kid feed themselves at any which time) this is sticky, nasty, and very bad news.
With a few kids under my belt and a few thousand cloth diapers changed, I have learned my lesson boys. Sheesh, if I could hold off on solids indefinitely I would. (JUST KIDDING. I know they need food besides breast milk eventually.)
No, I don't make them stay on milk forever, but I sure as heck don't rush the solids anymore or continuously feed a baby mush just so they can spit it out and drip it on the high chair.
Now I wait until they are grabbing and sitting and being very obvious about how much they WANT big boy/girl food. It isn't because I am so crunchy or because I don't want to pay for jarred baby food. I wait to start solids now because I know about the solids poop.
So boys, next time you want to make a recommendation about feeding babies solids, go change a few toddler diapers.
I am pretty sure you will re-think your stance on things and encourage breast milk as long as possible, and solids when a baby WANTS them. Not before.
Yours truly,
Baby-led weaning mothers of the world
PS
My last one started solids at about eight months and is as happy and healthy as a clam. I am however, now changing big girl diapers. Yuck.
Comments
One of the hilarious reasons people have complained about 'baby led weaning' where you let the kid put their food in their mouth is...and PEOPLE actually wrote this on a thread..... "How will they learn how to use a spoon?" Um, by picking it up and spooning food and putting it into their mouth. Babies are not idiots...if they see the rest of the family using the spoon to put soup in their mouths the babe will catch on....*roll eyes.
Cluelessly armed with a rubber tipped spoon
My personal experience is that when they are ready they will want it and when they aren't it will just be a struggle.
I did rice at 4 months with my first too! So don't feel bad- I don't!
I wonder if the health community where I live is ahead of the times so far, or if the community you live in is still behind. Makes me laugh though, all the 'recommendations' and advice given is just that. Guidelines. My oldest was ready for food at 4 months, my youngest not until 7 months. I just find it hilarious when people from my mother (or gramma's) generation feel qualified to give 'medical' advice. Child rearing advice, I'll take it, but medical advice not so much. :D
At 6 months, the natural iron stores that babies have accumulated have since depleted, and babies REQUIRE iron levels that are 3x the daily level of an adult male.
So the first foods introduced (fortified cereals and meats) should always include iron. Low iron can lead to a life long anemia problem, low blood cell count etc.
Side note: Waiting to 1 year before giving any food can be dangerous if you are breastfeeding exclusively. Breast milk does NOT contain iron. If you aren't feeding any solids a t all, an iron supplement of some kind is necessary. Or give the kid a couple tablespoons of baby cereal once a day if only for the iron.
Also, babies teeth faster and easier when they are allowed to eat solids (not strictly purees).
So, take all of the information you find with a grain of salt, because five years from now, there will be new info saying, "Never, ever feed a baby before 3 years" or "Start feeding solids at 1 month or your baby will be stupid" it's all changing constantly, and you need to do what's right for you and your family.
Someone is always going to disagree, or be snide about your choices. I have no trouble telling my overly bossy family to F off.